Am I the bad guy in this situation?

[Barth]

Sad situation for sure.
Thankfully I've never had to deal with such a event myself.
I think I would leave immediately, not return
and this individual would not be allowed to enter my home.

This sounds very much like it relates to
the gun safety requirement for ownership thread doesn't it?

[CJB]

she has her own bike.... and its obnoxious with its "safety" lighting. The headlight his highbeam, or higher, and the spotlights are also high. Nobody will ride in front of her at night its that bad.

The meetings are on rotation at folks' houses. I've decided to never darken her door step again, and she and her kin will never again darken mine. No more meetings at my place, so I don't have to deal with it. And when she's in rotation, I'll be... on excused absense. I can put a good word in with myself as Secretary to make that happen!

[downtownv]

I would have kicked her in the twhat!
That's a Moron's, Moron right there. Find another club, life's too short to be with stupid people.

[jocko]

heh I like that new word twhat. It will appear more. ur very wise downtown.

CJB, doesn't sound to me like it is an organization of any numbers to be meeting at anyone home. utter than the comradrie, I think I would try to find a public place that stays the same . Just my 21 cents. Ur a smart guy so u will make the right decision for you and that is all that matters

[Longitude Zero]

Ignorant gun handling, alcohol on board, I would have slapped the tea totaling shat outta her. And NEVER associated with her or anybody that got mad at what I did.

[DeaconKC]

I would present her with a printed copy of the first four rules of firearm's safety. then make it public why you will not be at any more meetings at her house. You were absolutely in the right and sounds like you handled it as well as anyone could under that circumstance.

[ltxi]

Someone points a firearm at me under the conditions you first described and they be physically going down! No talking/asking.

[jocko]

not sure that would work out the way ur thinkin though. Thi is a twaht ur gonna take down in her and her hubby home court. Just sayin.

Probalby the best thing wold have been for CJB or anyone who witnessed this twhat doin what she did, to just get up and walk out the door. No better signal would be needed IMO. to me busting a gal is not gonna make any friends. I just don't see um coming up to you later on and sayin nice punch there Itxi. Just sayin

as dumb as this guys wife was, I can still see him stepping in to defend her if u deck her. Course maybe ur built like Incognito, so in ur case no problem.

Ain't that a hell of a name to give a person Incogniti. Not sure which is worse that or ovomit.

[ltxi]

not sure that would work out the way ur thinkin though. Thi is a twaht ur gonna take down in her and her hubby home court. Just sayin.

Probalby the best thing wold have been for CJB or anyone who witnessed this twhat doin what she did, to just get up and walk out the door. No better signal would be needed IMO. to me busting a gal is not gonna make any friends. I just don't see um coming up to you later on and sayin nice punch there Itxi. Just sayin

as dumb as this guys wife was, I can still see him stepping in to defend her if u deck her. Course maybe ur built like Incognito, so in ur case no problem.

Ain't that a hell of a name to give a person Incogniti. Not sure which is worse that or ovomit.

Don't matter....training and ground in instinct is to go tunnel vision and deal with the threat.

I had something unlike that happen about 20+ years ago. Was working on something by the open door to my garage when a sub-teen neighbor kid jumped into the open and pointed a lifelike toy .1911 at my face.
He and I ended up in my driveway with him face down with a skinned up face and badly twisted up arm behind his back before either of us knew what was happening.

He'd thought he was just playing a game. His parents had the good sense to apologize.

[b4uqzme]

I guess I would have gone one way or the other: at her or away from her...fast. I doubt I would have done much talking but I'm glad everyone is safe. You certainly aren't the bad guy in this one and I'd seriously reconsider any further interaction with anyone who thinks you are.

[berettabone]

I surely don't believe in hitting a woman, BUT, a slap in the **** could have been in order. I think we can all agree, that when someone points a firearm at you, loaded or not, all bets concerning proper conduct are out the door..................

[TucsonMTB]

Although I so understand your pain, that's funny, at least from my perspective more than 2000 miles away.

Years ago, I worked with a person like that "lady". We were at a large, well funded, and "strategically important" software client of a major software firm you would probably recognize. Let's just call her "Julia".

I reported to Julia directly for funding purposes, even though my day to day activity involved other people and other departments "managing" enterprise wide software and the server hardware that hosted it.

Julia's staff meetings were usually more like meetings with the Spanish Inquisition than anything else I can think of. And, since a big part of my role as the software vendor's onsite resource was "making everything work", I spent a lot of time listening to sob stories from her staff while working out ways to make end runs around her.

In private, Julia once remarked to me that she "couldn't understand" why the truly excellent manager of their internal IT management team and I were always telling her the implementation strategies she proposed for the servers hosting "her" software were just mot workable.

Eventually, I asked to be reassigned. Everyone "got it" except Julia.

In part, I believe the plot for your meeting reads something like this, "One of the most cool headed, thoughtful guys I "know" here from this forum meets Julia . . . while she is drinking and waving a gun around."

This might be the point in our story where King Arthur would advise the Brave Sir Robin to, "Run away . . . Run away . . . Run away!"

[CJB]

FWIW, I could take her ol' man down with one hand pickin my butt. She, on the other hand would require two hands, and breakin a sweat. He's a putz, she wears the pants.

[jlottmc]

Brother, I'll add my 2. I told my ol' lady that there were two times I'd ever hit her. One she pulls a gun on me and I can't get to mine first, and two she changes her name to Lorena. I'm pretty real sure I can get to mine and get it out quick fast and in a hurry, between the training and the tests. Let that stew for a minute. I think the fine folks here have offered plenty of sage counsel here. Oh, the cop in me and my time in the armory would definitely come out with some hard to ignore commands. Enforceable commands.

[muggsy]

The first time someone points a gun in my direction is the last time they point a gun in my direction. I'd quit the club and buy her a tee shirt that says, " Instant A-hole, just add alcohol." She might get the point, but I doubt it.